Miles Asteri watched his eldest daughter with hawk eyes when he brought her home for the first time, excited and worried about his new responsibility for this little person. His girls, who are almost five and two, are adopted – but he had a fierce parental protectiveness from the start.
“It was the best decision of my life,” the 37-year-old says. “People say adoption is a nice thing to do, and it is, but I did it for me too. I feel like they were always meant to be mine. ‘Family’ is such a broad word these days, and adopting is the best thing both me and my husband have ever done.”
For the first time in years, there are more children in England in need of adoption than adults registered to adopt. It takes more than 18 months for nearly half of children before they are adopted, as the cost of living crisis has led to an unprecedented decline in adoption rates.
Nine in 10 prospective adopters said the cost of living crisis is having an impact on their decision to adopt.
Miles can empathise. A veterinary nurse now known for starring on the second season of The Traitors, he says: “I was really worried I didn’t have the house or income before starting this journey. I had to be reassured that I had more to give than I realised.
“I had a bit of a colourful childhood and I worried that would go against me, but speaking to these professionals, they told me I’d be skilled and equipped for these children’s backgrounds because I’ve faced similar things in my own childhood.”
Read Miles’ story and how the cost of living crisis is impacting adoption.